We were born perfect, let's not forget this!
I have this image, of a new born, seeing the light and feeling the hold of a human being for the first time, the breath of his mom and dad, feeling at home, where he belongs, on this beautiful planet, just like he needs to be. At that exact moment, he is perfect, a perfectly acceptable human being, the most beautiful moment of life, when love can create something so perfect, so natural.
The universe creates new life everyday, in various forms. Animal, human, or else, life has this capability of creating amazingness. It doesn't matter how what we are born at in that precise moment, a career woman, an all star hockey player, a little goofy little boy or a child with certain limitations. In that precise moment, we are deemed perfect in the eyes of our parents and family. We are given the chance to be whatever we will happen to be.
There is an openness from people when it comes to new born babies and children. I just look at my nephew, for example. When you look at him, see life through his eyes, you find yourself discovering things that you had been overlooking for years. We rediscover life through him, without judgement or expectations. Every little new things that he does, is exciting. We find ourselves laughing when he is having a phone conversation in jibberjabber with his dad on the phone. We give him the chance to be, just like he needs to be in that particular moment. I admirer my sister in law for being so patient with him, allowing him to do what he feels like doing, in the perfect little human being that he is.
A new born, a children, and then……LIFE happens. We start getting into the system. We go to school, we follow the process, we try to fit in, we try to impress. We need to get that A+ or make it on that sports team. We look up at our parents, we want to please them so much. I know sometime we'll say that kids are disconnected from the world, because they spend so much time on their computer or on their phone, playing games, chatting with their friends. We look at them and say, "ah, they are just kids, that's what kids do!". We judge them, without really thinking of why this new generation is running away from life, running away from expectations. Not wanting to face the music.
I used (sometime I still am) to be one of the person who was judging them. What aren't you looking up a little more, see life with your whole eyes? Well, I have lived this myself, maybe not through my cell phone at that age, but I was scared, scared of not being able to fit in, trying to measure myself by the grades I got in school, the friends that I had, the group that I would have fit in at school.
To be honest, I was never the popular kid and I never wanted to be one of those. In those days, I remember telling myself, that they were pretentious people, that I just couldn't be bothered with them. I was putting my own feelings and judgements on them, when all that time, it was all about me. I was scared, of not being good enough to be "One of them"! I was scared of not being accepted. I have stopped myself from trying out for High School volley ball or soccer, even though I had always been pretty good at it but enjoyed it the most, because I didn't want to take the risk of not making it, or being made fun of, or look like an idiot! I was judging myself as IMPERFECT, not enough.
I am not sure why I was there, and there are a million possibilities of what could have affected my own decision of not being enough. Yes, I think it's important to sometime find out the cause of it, but I think we simply need to be aware, of our own judgement, regardless of its cause!
As a society, we've created this world where we don't celebrate our successes. We always need to be performing to the maximum, achieve the world's expectations. When we see a young adult that has a hard time finding it's ways through the world, we judge them, labelled them as lazy, not good enough, procrastinators. Why aren't you getting your butt of that chair and DO sometime with your life?
Without even noticing, as we are trying to encourage them, we often push them back in that chair even more. Instead of encouraging them to BE, instead of DOING, we put our own expectations on them, without listening to them, to their "hurting"', not allowing them to opening themselves up to the us.
My therapist often says to me, "..the only way my patients will open themselves up to me, is when they feel they can trust me, when I am vulnerable, when I show them that it is ok to be hurting and vulnerable."
At first, I thought she was crazy. ME?… being vulnerable!!! It hurts too much, your are insane! Funny it is, I have been doing it this unconsciously. People often call me, "the sh*t disturber", because I speak of the truth and of the uncomfortable stuff. I am never doing this with the intentions of making someone feel bad about themselves. I know it now! (30years to find this out lol) I am doing this because I can't stand to be into a fake situation, where the people pretend either to get along and understand each other. I am often the one who will "snap out of it". Some will think, here she goes again but I think it's perfectly sane, to unleash the tension, and speak of the real things, let life and stress get out. I believe we need to do more of this as human being, and speak the truth and be ourselves more and more often than not.
Yes, sometimes it will hurt, yes there will be tears. Yes,we might loose some people in our lives because of it, but like I have read a few days ago. "People that matter, will understand. People that don't understand, don't matter". If we live our life and maintain our relationships through an outlook of love and compassion, I think we can all come to a better place with ourselves and others. Because we open our mind, heath and soul to perfection.
Everyone is put on hearth for a reason, for a purpose. Life sometime unfolds in a very different way for different person. Parents will try to teach their children to things in a better way than they have done it, will try to coach them not to "replicate" the same mistakes.
This might sound silly, but my dear parents of the world, you haven't done any mistakes in your life, you have just learned and experienced. Learned life, with the knowledge and experiences you had been given by your own parents. Your children will have a different road than yourself, but this is how we all learn, from our own experiences and challenges. YOU, yes YOU, created perfect human being! Those perfect human being have only intentions of becoming the better person they can be. No, they are not trying to piss you off, when they don't answer you or look like they are challenging your beliefs! In fact, they are challenging themselves, they are trying to find themselves, find who they really want to be. Let them BE, whatever they happened to be, through support and love. I know that you see them as the perfect creature that you saw, when they were born. When you are in doubt, or insecure about their future, go back to that image. Remind yourself of the feelings and thoughts you had when first put your eyes on them. Amazingness and perfection!
We are part of this beautiful planet, to each act and be who we really need to be. Feel, laugh and love. If we all walk through life, we the thought that we started this life as the perfect little human being that we were, when your parents first looked at you. When life welcomed you and said, you are just what you needed to be, you were just you. This is what makes us perfect, just like that.
We are all born perfect human being. We let civilization and society make us inadequate.
The universe creates new life everyday, in various forms. Animal, human, or else, life has this capability of creating amazingness. It doesn't matter how what we are born at in that precise moment, a career woman, an all star hockey player, a little goofy little boy or a child with certain limitations. In that precise moment, we are deemed perfect in the eyes of our parents and family. We are given the chance to be whatever we will happen to be.
There is an openness from people when it comes to new born babies and children. I just look at my nephew, for example. When you look at him, see life through his eyes, you find yourself discovering things that you had been overlooking for years. We rediscover life through him, without judgement or expectations. Every little new things that he does, is exciting. We find ourselves laughing when he is having a phone conversation in jibberjabber with his dad on the phone. We give him the chance to be, just like he needs to be in that particular moment. I admirer my sister in law for being so patient with him, allowing him to do what he feels like doing, in the perfect little human being that he is.
A new born, a children, and then……LIFE happens. We start getting into the system. We go to school, we follow the process, we try to fit in, we try to impress. We need to get that A+ or make it on that sports team. We look up at our parents, we want to please them so much. I know sometime we'll say that kids are disconnected from the world, because they spend so much time on their computer or on their phone, playing games, chatting with their friends. We look at them and say, "ah, they are just kids, that's what kids do!". We judge them, without really thinking of why this new generation is running away from life, running away from expectations. Not wanting to face the music.
I used (sometime I still am) to be one of the person who was judging them. What aren't you looking up a little more, see life with your whole eyes? Well, I have lived this myself, maybe not through my cell phone at that age, but I was scared, scared of not being able to fit in, trying to measure myself by the grades I got in school, the friends that I had, the group that I would have fit in at school.
To be honest, I was never the popular kid and I never wanted to be one of those. In those days, I remember telling myself, that they were pretentious people, that I just couldn't be bothered with them. I was putting my own feelings and judgements on them, when all that time, it was all about me. I was scared, of not being good enough to be "One of them"! I was scared of not being accepted. I have stopped myself from trying out for High School volley ball or soccer, even though I had always been pretty good at it but enjoyed it the most, because I didn't want to take the risk of not making it, or being made fun of, or look like an idiot! I was judging myself as IMPERFECT, not enough.
I am not sure why I was there, and there are a million possibilities of what could have affected my own decision of not being enough. Yes, I think it's important to sometime find out the cause of it, but I think we simply need to be aware, of our own judgement, regardless of its cause!
As a society, we've created this world where we don't celebrate our successes. We always need to be performing to the maximum, achieve the world's expectations. When we see a young adult that has a hard time finding it's ways through the world, we judge them, labelled them as lazy, not good enough, procrastinators. Why aren't you getting your butt of that chair and DO sometime with your life?
Without even noticing, as we are trying to encourage them, we often push them back in that chair even more. Instead of encouraging them to BE, instead of DOING, we put our own expectations on them, without listening to them, to their "hurting"', not allowing them to opening themselves up to the us.
My therapist often says to me, "..the only way my patients will open themselves up to me, is when they feel they can trust me, when I am vulnerable, when I show them that it is ok to be hurting and vulnerable."
At first, I thought she was crazy. ME?… being vulnerable!!! It hurts too much, your are insane! Funny it is, I have been doing it this unconsciously. People often call me, "the sh*t disturber", because I speak of the truth and of the uncomfortable stuff. I am never doing this with the intentions of making someone feel bad about themselves. I know it now! (30years to find this out lol) I am doing this because I can't stand to be into a fake situation, where the people pretend either to get along and understand each other. I am often the one who will "snap out of it". Some will think, here she goes again but I think it's perfectly sane, to unleash the tension, and speak of the real things, let life and stress get out. I believe we need to do more of this as human being, and speak the truth and be ourselves more and more often than not.
Yes, sometimes it will hurt, yes there will be tears. Yes,we might loose some people in our lives because of it, but like I have read a few days ago. "People that matter, will understand. People that don't understand, don't matter". If we live our life and maintain our relationships through an outlook of love and compassion, I think we can all come to a better place with ourselves and others. Because we open our mind, heath and soul to perfection.
Everyone is put on hearth for a reason, for a purpose. Life sometime unfolds in a very different way for different person. Parents will try to teach their children to things in a better way than they have done it, will try to coach them not to "replicate" the same mistakes.
This might sound silly, but my dear parents of the world, you haven't done any mistakes in your life, you have just learned and experienced. Learned life, with the knowledge and experiences you had been given by your own parents. Your children will have a different road than yourself, but this is how we all learn, from our own experiences and challenges. YOU, yes YOU, created perfect human being! Those perfect human being have only intentions of becoming the better person they can be. No, they are not trying to piss you off, when they don't answer you or look like they are challenging your beliefs! In fact, they are challenging themselves, they are trying to find themselves, find who they really want to be. Let them BE, whatever they happened to be, through support and love. I know that you see them as the perfect creature that you saw, when they were born. When you are in doubt, or insecure about their future, go back to that image. Remind yourself of the feelings and thoughts you had when first put your eyes on them. Amazingness and perfection!
We are part of this beautiful planet, to each act and be who we really need to be. Feel, laugh and love. If we all walk through life, we the thought that we started this life as the perfect little human being that we were, when your parents first looked at you. When life welcomed you and said, you are just what you needed to be, you were just you. This is what makes us perfect, just like that.
We are all born perfect human being. We let civilization and society make us inadequate.
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