Foundations; The basis of our lives

A vision: Imagine yourself watching a building go up, a bridge taking shape.

As a modern civilization, we've been know to build things bigger and better than the previous generations. Through technologies and research, we are finding new ways to do things. More efficiently. No matter how tall and big we can make things, there is always one thing that remains as important as it used to be years, decades and centuries ago.

Foundation: The basis on which a thing stands, is founded, or is supported.- The free dictionnary.com

Foundation is the base of most things in our lives. In things that we build or even in our relationships. When you look at all the people that have an important part to play in our lives, there is a foundation to that relationship. Yes, it usually starts with things you have in common, like hobby, sports, tastes in food. Initially  this is what you need to start the foundation of a lasting relationship. To be honest, not to long ago, I would have thought that having things in a common was all that you needed. Not because that's all those relationships were to me, but  because I was not aware of the other levels of our connection. Deep down, through our foundation, there were aggregates, a structure that was holding those relationships together. A connection from the soul, an emotional background, that perhaps we were not even aware of. Souls that talk between one another, while our conscience is not even aware of it. 

You meet people along your path, for a reason. I used to think it was just the way of life, that people came and went. That is just happened for no particular reasons. I know now that there is more to it than that. Experiences have thought me that people come and go in your life for the reason of teaching or helping you in a way or another. You'll also meet people as well, to inspire them and give them a little push. You can't change people, you can only move them as far as they are willing to go. They have to decide of their own learnings.

My latest inspiration has been my little sister. Three years younger than me, very different life path than mine, full of potential, generosity and an amazing ability to love unconditionally. She was faced with a lot of adversity in her life, but I have always looked at her like she was bigger and stronger than me. 

I remember when she was 4 or 5 years old, tiny little girl, when my mom sent her to her room for miss behaving. Of course she went, but mad as hell, only for my mom to find her about 30 minutes later in her room, where she had picked up her bed mattress and flipped it upside down. 

That was one of a series of episodes where I thought, my god she is strong, and when she puts her mind into something, she is capable of great things. She has the ability to find that inner strength and courage to get through the toughest situations. That has been the foundation of her life, because she had to learn to fight for it at an early age because of her sickness. 

As we grew up, she told me many times that I was her inspiration and that she wished that she would become as good of a person than me. That was the foundation of our relationship. The fact is, although we have a different life path, she is probably more so inspirational to me, that I am for her. 

She also did just that less than a week ago. She made a decision that was going to change the course of her life, and to me, I saw the picture of this beautiful butterfly, that was finally coming out of her life long cocoon. My sister, through her actions, courage and devotion to unconditional love, inspire me like to one else had even done before. 

Joannie, you are an amazing person, and you just thought me that if the foundation of a relationship has changed, that is is ok to look for something else, that there will always be an evolution within those relationships.

Foundations are the basis of every relationships, you need to be aware of what makes those relationships tick in order for them to remain healthy. If the foundation can't get fixed, perhaps it is the time to rebuild or find a new place to build it.