I felt in love...


By Véronique Haché, June 24-2013


When you were little, love was a very simple concept….almost intuitive. But as life goes on, it becomes more intricate and a lot more complex. Probably in its nature because us adults, carry lots of judgment, fears and expectations around love. We expect that when we give out love, to have it given back in return. Over the last few months, I have understood that to really appreciate love, you have to return to the same feelings you had when you were young. You have to make it intuitive and from the soul. Deep down, our heart and souls know how to love people and how to receive it, when it is given to us. When you can love without any judgment, fears or expectations, you’ll benefit from it like it is supposed to be. SIMPLE!
When you were a kid, you loved your mom, your dad, your siblings, etc. You didn’t ask questions about it, you just knew you loved them and they loved you. It was how it was, and how it was supposed to be.
Along the way to your childhood, you learned that some things, for some inexplicable reasons, you didn’t like. Your mom or dad explained that is was alright, that we all got to make choices in life and everybody had their preferences. It was ok to have feelings and emotions; you were developing yourself as your own person by making your own choice and decisions as to what friends you were going to have, and which person you didn’t like or not. What clothes you wanted to wear, what food you really liked.
As you got into puberty, hormones came into play, then you’ve met your first boyfriend or girlfriend. Fling it probably was and you wouldn’t make much out of it, it only lasting a few days or weeks if you were really in love.
Then adult life started to settle in. Expectations were that you should have been taking life more seriously at that time. Try to find someone you could spend the rest of your life with. Although we can all think we are pretty good judge of characters, we often than not, get caught into a relationship that is not good for us.
As I observe some members of my family, it seems there is almost a pattern in the type of companions my aunts and cousins fall in love with or end up with. It’s life even if they have seen the same type of man all their lives, they are not able to dissociate themselves from those types of personalities.
Even if they break up with one, they always end up with another one. I can’t really explain this phenomenon. I would say it is probably because they don’t really know themselves yet and have yet to feel comfortable enough in their own skin.
I went through the same situation but I was able to figure out after the first one that this person was not good for me.
I have now been with my husband for almost 10 years now. Even if we have our disagreement once in a while, we are always able to figure things out, mostly through communication, understanding but mostly through compassion. You can’t always understand what someone is going through, but you can always care for them and support them through their decisions and choices. I think this is how you build a strong relationship, by letting the other person be what they really want to be and in the moment.  
Now and days, I fall in love on a daily basis. Not just with my husband but with people that comes through my life on a daily basis. They are people that I come across for a moment, to help them along their journey. Those people that enter my life by pure coincidence, through a series of circumstances that are there to help me along my own journey. From which I learn amazing things, and I know that even they will come and go, they will always be in m y shadow, helping me through things.
The meetings that I appreciate the most are the ones that find me for the sole purpose of being there for one another. They are friends that will become like family even if they live thousands kilometers away or just next door.
With those people, I fall in love not only through the heart, but also through the soul. Those relationships will last until the end of time and perhaps we would even reconnect in another life. Those connections that we have established, even for a few moments spend together, make my dreams reality. They make my life valuable and real.
They are the values that I now cherish with all my heart. They make me whole, they allow me to be myself, they make my life better.

I felt in love with them…..because of it.

Love
Veronique

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